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Amaurophilia: Sex Dictionary

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written by : Amber Lynn Connell

Amaurophilia

Amaurophilia is a sexual preference for a blind or blindfolded sex partner or for having-sex in total darkness.

Causes:

1) Some people believe this may be due to religious guilt, low self-esteem, or feelings of inadequacy since some people are uncomfortable about having-sex under bright lights. 2) Anxiety is another possible cause because people struggle with anxiety may find using darkness and blindfolds removes some pressure to perform well. 3) Simple preference. Others find that using blindfolds increases tactile stimulations to help them reach greater sensitivity to sexual activities. Therefore, using darkness or a blindfold with your partner may reduce anxiety and increase sexual arousal.

How to incorporate blindfolds into sex play:

Sexual activity with blindfolds can be an exercise in sexual communication and trust. If the person receiving stimulation is blindfolded, he or she will be in the position of trusting his or her partner to use touches and activities that are preferred. A receiving and blindfolded partner can also work on communication by expressing which sensations are pleasurable and which ones are not. When one person is blindfolded, the seeing partner will begin to massage, stimulate, rub, and touch the receiving partner’s body, chest, breasts, genitals, or feet. Touch anywhere that feels natural. The receiving partner will then tell the giving partner what touches are good and which ones are not preferred. They will express a need for faster, harder, lighter, or slower pressure and speed. First, try this exercise with words then try it again without speaking. You will have to use other forms of communication such as moaning, body language, and physical signs like grabbing, moving, or leaning in to the touch. Then switch roles. Another way blindfolds/darkness can be used for trust and communication is when both partners are blindfolded or in a completely dark room. They will have to let each other know where they are, what to touch, as well as where and when to move. Switching sexual positions may be difficult at first but communication will grow. To increase the communication from this exercise, try having both partners be blindfolded then engage in sex play in a room that is not a common place for the tow of you to have sex. For example: put on your blindfolds and then have sex on a chair in the dining room. This will require even more communication and there will be physical and space barriers that neither can see. If it is too difficult having sex in a new space while both of you are blindfolded, try just one person to start.

Using blindfolds can also be beneficial for a shy couple wanting to try something new. The darkness will remove some pressure of “looking awkward.” But it will add new sensations that need to be communicated. This is the case because some people get more aroused with a visual. Removing the visual of your partner will require both parties to do some mindfulness techniques. Try talking dirty or sexy to one another with the blindfolds on. Then compare the visualizations you created in your mind. Also, you can stimulate a new part of your partner’s body and have them guess what and how you are touching. They can also guess what part of your body you are touching it with. For example you can rub your partner’s thighs with your elbow and see if they can guess what you did.

Some things to keep in mind:

  • Before attempting to use blindfolds discuss it with your partner. Find out their likes, dislikes, hopes, expectations, desires, fears etc.
  • Communicate your reasons and desires for using a blindfold.
  • Remember not everything is for everyone. Try not to take it personally if your partner has some reservations.
  • If using a blindfold makes your partner nervous, explain what you hope to do while it is on as well as what your goals are for the relationship by using a blindfold during sexual activity.
  • If you truly have a strong preference for blindfolded activities, share this with your partner. This will help put yourself and your preference in a context. It will help ease your partner’s tension or feelings that the activity is too out of the ordinary.

Another tip on blindfolds

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