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BLINDFOLDS
Sex Therapy in Philadelphia
The introduction of blindfolds
is a great way to spice up a relationship that has gotten sexually stale.
Too often people get sexually bored in relationships. People get bored
emotionally, intellectually and sexually. Too often people stop putting the
energy required into their sex life to keep it feeling fresh. Thus, this
tip is designed to shake up your sexual routine a bit.
When you and your partner are
next home alone and eating dinner, try the following:
Take out two blindfolds and put them on each other. Proceed
with dinner as normal. Please note, eating may be slightly more difficult. Your
eyesight no longer will help you navigate that fork full of lettuce into your
mouth. Chew each bite for at least 30 chomps. Pay attention to the way the food
tastes. Let your other senses take over.
After dinner, which for
most couples is a memorable experience, hold hands and walk together to the
bedroom. You each only can use one hand to navigate. You will need to rely on
your partner for help. Consider this to be a trust building exercise. Once in
the bedroom, without removing the blindfolds begin touching each other. Try
massaging each other's hands, toes, thighs, genitals, lips, shoulder, arm, and
elbow. Note what it feels like to do it without site. Are the two of you more
comfortable this way because you are used to being sexual without looking at the
other person? Or are you less comfortable? What is it like to undress the other
person? What activities do you find yourself being drawn towards? What sexual
activities make you feel the safest? Which ones excite you the most? How does
wearing a blindfold change your experience?
If eating and wearing blindfolds feels
like it is out of your comfort zone, try the following:
Spend ten minutes on the living room couch 'making out'. The take your
partner by the hand and lead him/her into the bedroom. Commence fooling
around. After stimulating his or her chest, bring the blindfold out from
your pocket, and place it over your partner's eyes. Then perform oral sex
on your partner. Instead of doing the same old type of oral sex, this time
use an ice-cube. You can directly put the ice cube on your partner's
genitals, or you can put the ice cube in your mouth and use your tongue to guide
the exact degree / pressure that your partner will experience.
Written by "Alex" Caroline Robboy, CAS,
MSW, ACSW, LCSW
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