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How To Give a
Blow Job
Giving a good blow job requires the following three
elements:
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Being able to make your partner desire you even before your lips touch
his penis
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Ability to read his body language
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Willingness to experiment
Being able to make your partner
desire you even before your lips touch his penis may sound difficult, but it’s
not. Your mission is to make your partner thinks he is about to receive the
best blow job he has ever had, and if you can do this, then your job is already
half complete. Anticipation on his end will enhance whatever you are doing.
Thus, the more able you are to engage his brain in a sexual fantasy, the less
‘work’ you will have to do.
To engage your partner’s sexual
energy:
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Make a production of ‘getting him ready’ for a blow job.
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Give him a bath, and wash his penis and then dry him off with a
towel.
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Begin with a half hour full body massage.
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Have your hands wander all around his butt cheeks and inner thighs
a little too long.
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Let your tongue linger on his belly near the tip of his penis
without touching it.
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Breath heavy on the tip of his penis / balls.
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Have your chest accidentally touch his penis.
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Talk dirty.
Five minutes after your comfort
zone of waiting to being, begin. If you are doing your job well, he should
already be hard. For some men, who are very visually stimulated, you may need
to wear some slinky outfit. Others may need to be tied up, and others may
prefer a blind-fold. The point is, to ‘set the scene’ for a blow job, long
before your lips ever touch his shaft. Expectation makes it sweater. The only
exception to this work-up is if you want fast sex. Then the blow job should be
done just long enough to get him hard, so that you can take him!
Knowing how to read his body is
a critical component. Long foreplay will always flop if you do not engage his
brain. During sex, using words, while direct, is not always sexy. Thus,
Learn to read his body:
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Does he have a preference for the top of his shaft or the bottom
of his shaft to be stimulated. Rarely does a man like both equally well.
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What type of stimulation does he like in the initial arousal faze,
his balls to be nibbles, sucked and stroked, or the tip of his penis?
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To determine how close he is to orgasm, try resting your fingers
on his artery located on the shaft of his penis. The faster the pulse, the
closer he is to orgasm.
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At what point does he start to breath harder?
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When does he make the most noise? If your partner is the strong
silent type, make a game out of it. Tell him that you will only continue to give
him a blow job if he makes noise. Let the noise guide your movement.
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How does he touch you? Generally, people touch you the way they
want to be touched. Does he spend 5 minutes or 35 minutes giving you
cunnilingus. Match his efforts. Does he touch you lightly or hard, fast or slow?
Again match his efforts.
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Play the A-B game with him. Try two different types of touch.
Whatever he likes better becomes choice B, then substitute a new choice A.
OK, so, now you know how to get your partner excited about
a good blow job. You even know how to listen for some feedback, but the problem
remains. You are clueless about what to do. If this is you, keep reading.
Tips, tricks and ideas, written in no particular order:
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Cup his balls in your mouth. Use your tongue to move
them around. Begin by using light touch. Change the speed and pressure.
Listen for his response. There is wide variability in men as to how they
like, if at all, having their balls stimulated.
- Focus on the tip of the penis. The tip of the penis
is often most sensitive. Flick your tongue. Wrap your tongue around it.
Suck on it.
- At the point of no return, meaning he is going to
orgasm, take some ice-cubes and place them on his balls. The sudden reaction
to cold intensifies the experience.
- Put an ice-cube in your mouth while giving a blow job.
This intensifies the blow job by creating an extra unusual sensation. Warmth
and heat mixed together.
- Drink some hot water just prior to giving a blow job.
Again, this is simply shifting the sensations of the same touch.
- Combine using your hands with mouth. This gives you
more ability to cover more of his penis without needing to deep throat (DT), or
hurt your jaw by taking too much of him into your mouth.
- Move hands away from mouth while giving a blow job.
- Bring hands towards you while giving a blow job.
- Move your hands up and down in sync with the blowjob.
The increased contact with the penis, almost feels like deep throating.
- Use the base of your tongue to move his penis towards
the back of your throat. Apply pressure with your tongue on his penis.
- Experiment with a hand job that uses oil and/or salvia
for lubricant, what did you like better and why?
- Make noise while giving a blow job. Act as if giving a
blow job is really turning you on. By seeming turned on, your partner will
have an easier time relaxing and simply enjoying the blow job.
- Take your hands and place them under his butt. Move
his butt towards you.
- Wrap your tongue around his penis and pull back.
- Suck his penis as hard as you can. Imagine slurping
the best giant lollipop that you have ever seen.
- Deep throat (DT) him. Deep throating simply means covering
his whole penis with your mouth. To do so requires you to open the back of
your mouth. If taking his whole penis makes you feel like you want to choke,
you are doing the technique wrong. You are likely not opening the back of
your throat all the way. To open your throat, imagine chugging beer.
(please note, we do note promote chugging beer). Whatever you naturally do
to chug beer, is what you need to do to deep throat. If you do not drink
beer, practice chugging water, milk or juice. Again, it’s the same skill
but often easier. In addition, place the tip of his penis on the roof of
your mouth and practice sliding it as far back as you can on the left side.
Only try one new technique per week. Give yourself the
opportunity to practice and change with time. By introducing everything all at
once, you run the risk of not only overwhelming him but of running out of
ideas. Giving a good blow job requires that you do not develop any one
particular routine. Each time you give a blow job it should be slightly
different. Change, including slight moderations, keeps blow jobs feeling new and
exciting.
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